Findom Tips & Kink Education

Follow and DM your questions about kink and findom and I’ll answer anonymously. Everything posted on this page is only my opinion and how I do things. You do you. I have over 10 years of experience in kink, but I’m not the end all be all. paypig cashcow femdom

Remember that subs still have free will. If you don’t respect that, why should they respect you? findom femdom

Being the biggest bitch in the room doesn’t make you the best Domme in the room. femdomme findom femdom

Not attracting the subs you want? Prove you are competent, understand the kinks, and understand and respect consent. findomme findom paypig

Learn your subs innermost motivations, and what they really need from a D/s relationship and they will be eating out of the palm of your hand. femdom findomme

There’s a difference between punishment and funishment. If you reward a misbehaving sub, it only reinforces bad behavior and disrespects the dynamic you have built. findom femdom

Authenticity is important. Find your own domination style. Submissives can ALWAYS tell when you’re forcing it. paypig cashcow findom femdom

Coercion and punishment (including humiliation) for not consenting is a blatant consent violation. Respect your subs boundaries! findom paypig femdom

Pain isn’t just physical. Find your subs mental pain points and they’ll be yours forever. findom femdom paypig

Not every submissive likes humiliation. Not every sub is the same. femdomme findom femdom

Find your own personal charm. Emulating what everyone else is doing only makes you blend in. findom femdom fetish

Be decisive and self-confident. If you doubt yourself or your abilities, your sub won’t be confident in you either. findom femdom cashcow

In order to train a sub, they have to understand the expectations and what they did well, as well as what they’ve done wrong. femdom kink paypig

Pay attention to your subs tone of voice, vocabulary, mannerisms. You can learn so much through non-verbal communication. findom femdom

Empathy is SO UNDER-RATED. If you don’t know what your sub is feeling/thinking, how do you know how to control them? findom femdom paypig

Punishment should be designed around what your subs actually find painful/uncomfortable. The same punishment doesn’t work for every sub. findom femdom cashcow

The mark of a good Domme is someone that is clear and firm in Her own boundaries. femdom humanatm findom

Keep your feed positive. Calling out timewasters, and bitching about how broke subs are is only going to make Dommes and subs alike stay away from you. femdom findom

This account is for aspiring or working Dommes to learn about D/s, psychology, and get snippets of kink education. HMU with any questions (I can keep you anon if you want)💖

Training a submissive should not only please you, it should benefit them. If your goal isn’t to make them the best version of themselves, you’re missing the point. femdom findom paypig

As a Domme, it’s your job to facilitate the right conversations, ask the right questions, and to know what they AREN’T telling you. findom femdom paypig