Mary

everyone should have hobbies cos they save you from getting emotionally attached to people for the wrong reasons and there's a reason i say this always. an idle mind has a way of confusing loneliness with love. when you're busy lifting, creating, reading or learning new things, you become less dependent on other people for excitement.. we have a habit of romanticising every little attention we receive, even when the other person doesn't have the same intentions. a lot of the time, you don't even want that person. you're just bored and looking for something to fill your time. the best relationships happen when two people with fulfilling lives come together, not when two bored people make each other their only hobby. that kind of dependency puts unnecessary pressure on the relationship.

when you get to 35 and you're single with no kids, you're going to regret it cos you should've already started a family by now. if you get to 35 yo and you've been married for 10 yrs with 3 or 4 kids, you're going to regret that cos you never got the chance to really live out your 20s. so if you marry, you will regret it. if you don't marry, you will also regret it. if you have kids, you will regret it. if you don't have kids, you will regret it. the big problem here is that choosing one life leaves another one unlived and where the regret festers is in our minds, when we romanticize the unknown of the path we didn't choose. we keep hunting for a choice that lets us keep every upside and pay no price but newsflash: it doesn't exist. so ask yourself, do i want this life badly enough to carry its cost? or did i only love it while it cost me nothing? think about that.