Olúwásetèmi

Few takeaways and lessons from this. 1. The father didn’t have the means, so he left the child. That was stupid ! And was a colossal mistake and terrible; it’s one of the mistakes men make. Of course, many families and women create conditions that make that a natural occurrence, but you have to be seen to keep fighting it and establish yourself properly in your child’s life. There was no excuse. He didn’t do well by leaving him to them and was up north, unbothered. Never ever abandon your child to anybody!! 2. It’s interesting that this child, with all of that background story, ended up being the child that could have changed the entire story of the family for generations and was the star of their family. God works in mysterious ways. 3. The conventional wisdom that the child would still know his father which people swore always plays out happened here. Toluwani was always in touch with him, even by this man’s account, and did his best for him while alive and still had big and decent plans for him before he passed. He was under no obligation to, considering that this man even said with his mouth that for some period, they had no single contact with him. (I do not think he should open his mouth and say that.) 4. Notwithstanding him establishing some relationship with the father, he still didn’t have close connections with him and his family, and rightly so. He didn’t live with them and technically didn’t raise him. He would definitely have a much closer affinity with the mother’s side, who he lived with. 5. Curiously, the mother’s side that raised him haven’t said anything or granted interviews all over the place like these ones. 6. With all of this, the father and his family are not in a position to be making demands after his death. There is no other way to look at it. It’s a disgrace that they are making any demands, having allowed themselves to be removed from the child’s formative years. 7. Even if they were there, I don’t think anyone should be dictating to the wife of a man who has children where her husband should be buried. They can have opinions, but you can’t discount her wishes. If it were a woman, it wouldn’t be okay for the family to be making such strong demands.