Sultan of Engineers.

This looks familiar to what happened to Aunty Tosin in 2011. She was eventually cured even though she is no more alive today. First of all, this thing is a two-way thing. it could be a severe physical infection or a venomous bite that happened while sleeping. It could also be a real spiritual attack that leaves a physical mark. When people say they are shot in their dream, how does it work? The translation that it is a gun shot is most probably the best interpretation her brain could give to what she saw in her dream when she woke up. The gunshot is an illusion, but the wound is real. There is no metal bullet in the realm of the unseen. We call it stabbing or piercing. Yes, a jinn or dark force can stab you in the dream and it will show on your physical body. In authentic Islamic texts, the Prophet (peace be upon him) described unseen biological strikes from the Jinn as Wakhz (a piercing or stabbing). Ibn Hajar al-Asqalani explained this extensively in his book Badhl al-Ma'un fi Fadl al-Ta'un. In the Anglo-Saxon and Norse texts, it is called Elf-shots. Yorubas would say Ofa. All these points to the fact that a metaphysical projectile fired in the unseen realm can rot physical flesh in the waking world. Why? Because your physical body is heavily tethered to your soul, therefore, whatever damages the soul immediately reflects on the flesh. When the spiritual strike pierces the soul in the dream state, the life force in that specific part of the body is severed. In her own case, it is her leg. The cells undergo rapid death. And this why people die from it. But the brain translates the unseen violence as a gunshot or something else so your conscious mind can process the trauma. This is why hospital treatments struggle in such situation. The doctor is treating physical pus, but the spiritual poison is actively rotting the tissue from the inside out. It can be scary for real. When Aunty Tosin faced this in 2011, standard drugs did very little initially. They had to apply a specific poultice to draw out the esoteric poison. It was a raw paste made of ground Sidr leaves, Qist al-Hindi, and pure honey applied directly into the open wound, plus so many Ruqyah recitations. The Qist and Sidr neutralized unseen venom, while the honey forced the dead tissue to regenerate. Then she was placed on heavy antibiotics and health practices from the medical side. That was how the wound closed by the Grace of the Almighty. My advice for her is to seek medical help immediately to ensure there are no underlying severe issues like a necrotic spider bite or a dangerous bacterial infection. Once that is confirmed at the hospital, if she is a Muslim, she should commence heavy Ruqyah to destroy the spiritual root of the attack. Life is much deeper than what we see on the surface. Allah knows best.

You are a blockhead. Your forefathers were never fortunate enough to be guided, hence, your current predicament. You are sitting on a chair we built, using a phone we made possible, to talk about a lack of intelligence. It is the height of irony. You are screaming about IQ while using a system of logic built by the very people you are insulting. You are a man with no history of your own, just a collection of trends you picked up from the West to feel relevant. You call the Creator a demon while you live off the leftovers of His scholars. Here is what you fail to know about the roots you don't have: 1.Algorithms and Algebra: You cannot even open your X app without Al-Khwarizmi. He gave the world the math and the algorithms that run every piece of tech you worship. While the people you admire were in the dark, he was mapping the future of digital logic. 2.Modern Medicine and Surgery: You think the West invented the hospital or the scalpel? Look up Al-Zahrawi. He created the surgical tools and the procedures that doctors still use in 2026 to save lives. Ibn Sina wrote the medical books that Europe used for five hundred years just to survive. 3.Higher Education: Even the very idea of a degree-granting university came from a Muslim woman, Fatima al-Fihri. She founded the first one in the world while the rest of the globe was still figuring out how to organize a classroom. You are an attache. You have no foundation. You just bark out whatever the West tells you is "modern" because you are desperate for their validation. We have a law that gave us the divine blueprint and a history of carrying the world on our backs while you were still lost. Realize your place before you talk about intellect. Get a life bro.

I have the tweet from the OP and the quoted tweet. I have also talked about this several times on this space. Here is what I have learned on this matter: The first thing we have to understand is that while every soul is a trust, the Law is not meant to be a trap that destroys you. In the science of the objectives of the Law, Al-Shatibi explains in his book Al-Muwafaqat that the preservation of life is a top priority, but it must be balanced with the avoidance of extreme hardship. If saving one life requires the financial destruction of a father's ability to care for the rest of his family, it creates a conflict. We do not solve the problem of a sick child by making the rest of the household living ghosts under the weight of 20+ million naira in debt. There is also the question of whether medical treatment is mandatory when the cost is this high. Imam al-Nawawi clarifies in Al-Majmu’ that if the success of the treatment is not guaranteed but the debt will definitely ruin you, the obligation is lifted. He made us to understand that you cannot fix one harm by inflicting a permanent harm on your other children and your marriage. The principle that hardship brings ease is there for a reason. A man has a duty to those he can support without falling into a hole he can never climb out of. Again, when the price of survival is millions, the responsibility moves from the father to the whole community. If you wondering why Muslim communities engage in crowdfunding for health issues. This is a reason. Al-Jassas mentions in Ahkam al-Quran that the wealth of the community is supposed to serve the needs of the weak. If the father is poor, it becomes a communal obligation, or a Fard Kifayah. This means the sin of the child passing away due to a lack of funds falls on the wealthy members of society and the state, not on the parents who have no means. Crowdfunding is the right way to share this weight so it does not crush one man alone. And finally, we have to be humble enough to accept the limits of our power. Ibn al-Hammam points out in Fath al-Qadir that when the means to an end are out of reach, the legal responsibility is gone. If the money is not there after trying to find help, the father is not a murderer and he is not at fault. He is a man who reached his limit. The child returns to its Creator, and the father is not expected to commit financial suicide. Allah knows best.

Since the past 24 hours that I made the tweet on child parenting solution, my DM has been buzzing. I checked them, and one thing was quite common to all: Parents who are not happy about their kid’s performance in school, and they have approached it the wrong way. If you fall in this category, this post is for you. Many of us use brutal force because expectations are too high, and the anger is just too much. The scholar Ibn al-Jawzi explained in his book Sayd al-Khatir that intellect is a Rizq (provision) from God, just like money or health. He said some people are born with a wide vessel and others with a narrow one. If you try to force the water of a whole sea into a small cup, you will only spill the water and ruin the cup. This is what many of us are doing. We are trying to force a "doctor's brain" into a child whose cup was designed for something else. By that, it causes a soul-crushing resentment in the child. Imam Al-Ghazali described this beautifully in Ihya’ Ulum al-Din. He warned parents about a state called “Al-Malal”, where a child builds resentment because they are pushed beyond their limit. Everyone wants the best for their child. No doubt. However, if you keep yelling at them for things they cannot grasp yet, you make them hate the very sight of a book. You are closing the door to their heart while trying to kick open the door to their mind. Then what is the solution? It is simple. Going forward, every parent should make efforts to start looking for the Fath (the opening) in their kids. What does this mean? This is the lane the Almighty has prepared for them. In our history, if a child is slow with grammar or math, the scholars don’t call them a failure. They move them to a trade, a craft or a service. How then do you identify this Fath (Opening) in your child? Please pay close attention to me… (1) The first phase is Observation. Ibn al-Qayyim mentioned a concept called Istid’ad (natural readiness) in his book titled: Tuhfat al-Mawdud. This means you want to watch/observe/look at the child when they think nobody is looking. This is your first tool. For the next two weeks, stop talking about school. Do not worry yourself about how they perform on their homework. Instead, keep a "Strength Log." Every evening, write down one thing they did well that had nothing to do with a classroom. Did they fix a broken toy? Did they calm down a crying sibling? Did they organise their shoes? You are looking for their Istid’ad (natural readiness). If they are "book-slow" but "people-smart" or "hand-smart," that is where the key has been placed. (2) Introduce “Project or Craft” early on. Ibn Khaldun, in his Muqaddimah, argued that projects/crafts are high forms of intelligence that build civilizations. He argued that some minds are designed to understand the physical world better than the abstract one. Give them a "Project Day." Buy a basic tool kit, a sewing machine, or a coding starter kit. Give them a broken radio or a piece of furniture to fix. Delegate. Give them a real-world task that has a visible result. When a child who fails at math sees that they can build a table or bake a perfect loaf of bread, their internal shame starts to heal. They realize they are not stupid; they were just in the wrong room. (3) Kill the Comparison Virus. Imam Al-Zarnuji, in his classic work Ta’lim al-Muta’allim, explained that a student should only study what fits their nature. He said that forcing a student into a field they have no taste for is a waste of their life and the teacher's time. When you compare your child to others, you are catching a virus that blinds you to their path. Always filter. When family members start bragging about their kids' grades, you must be the shield. Tell them, "My child is mastering the art of (so so and so)." You are teaching your child that success is not a single ladder. There are many ladders to it. And if you do not value their ladder, they will stop climbing. (4) Prioritize Character Building. Put more efforts to praise your kids for their good character. Always tell them you love them when they behave well or show good character. Character recognition helps the child build a good self-image, which translates into self-confidence and barrier-breaking for the child. Prioritise this. (5) Don’t underestimate the power of your words. Always pray to God to grant them their opening. The scholars taught that the "opening" is a gift from Al-Fattah (The Opener). Supplicate. In your Sujud or in your prayers, stop asking for them to be a doctor/engineer, and what have you. Ask for the door that was made for them to be opened. Ask Him to show you the Fath so you can stop pushing them against a closed wall. Always remember, a parent who finds the "Fath (The Opening)" for their child has given them a gift better than a degree. You have given them a purpose. Start that journey NOW. It’s never too late… Thank you for your attention. Allah knows best.

This breaks my heart and I understand how your friend feels. A typical 16 year old boy would claim he knows what he is doing. However, he is still young to know the permanence of his actions. Like I said in my first post, none of these parenting issues haven’t been solved in history. In light of this, permit me to share some deep wisdom from our scholars on how to handle this. First of all, cut off his audience. Stop focusing on the alcohol. The alcohol is just the result. The real issue is the friends taking those pictures and hyping him up online. A classical scholar named Ibn al-Jawzi wrote a book called Sayd al-Khatir. In this book, he warned that human nature is a thief. He said your character will steal the bad habits of your friends without you even noticing. So she has to break that peer influence. Take his phone. Cut his allowance. Limit his unnecessary outings and keep him closer to home. Do whatever it takes to separate him from that specific group of friends. If it requires you approaching their parents to tell them clearly that you want them to cut ties with your child, please do it. Once you do this, his demeanor will change towards you, so you have to be prepared for that. Change how you confront him. Adopt softer voice and tone pitches. If you scream at a teenager, you do not stop the bad behavior. You just teach him to become a better liar and hide it from you. We have a famous historical account of a young boy who went to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and boldly asked for permission to commit a major sin. The Prophet (peace be upon him) did not shout or slap him. He brought the boy close, asked him direct questions to make him think, and reasoned with his intellect. Your friend needs to sit her son down. Look him in the eye and talk to the man she wants him to become, not the boy he is acting like. Appeal to his future and his dignity. After you have done this, she now has to fill up his time. One of our great scholars, Ibn al-Qayyim wrote a powerful book called Al-Daa wad-Dawaa, which means The Disease and The Cure. In it, he explained a golden rule I want you to note. He said the human heart is a vessel. If you empty out the bad habits but leave the heart empty, those bad habits will rush right back in. This means that you cannot just command him to stop drinking. You have to give him something heavier to carry. Hand him serious responsibilities around the house or find him a tough mentor. But when you do this, make sure you tie this to a clear reward system. Tell him, if you do this work, you get this privilege. Make him earn his freedom back. And when he puts in the effort, she must try as much as possible to fulfill her own part of the promise. This rebuilds trust and exhausts his energy so he has no time for weekend parties. Finally, she must guard her tongue. When a mother is heartbroken, it is very easy to say damaging things. Tell her to never speak failure over his life. In our tradition, the Prophet (peace be upon him) taught a beautiful concept called Al-Fa'l. It means maintaining optimism and speaking good words even in the darkest situations. Even if she is furious during an argument and wants to scream a curse out of frustration, she must flip it and shout a prayer for his guidance instead. She should speak the good she wants to see. The prayer of a mother goes straight to God without any barrier. She should use her tears to pray for God to change his heart, break his bad friendships, and straighten his path. Tell your friend to hold her ground. Many great men had terrible teenage years. She just needs to stay steady, change her strategy, and fight for his future. Allah knows best.

Hello Lola, I am a Muslim, and our spiritual tradition has a very deep approach to raising children. I want to share some tips from our scholars that will be beneficial to you regardless of your faith. First of all, our theology teaches the concept of Fitrah. This means that every child is born with a pure heart. At six years old, she is not a criminal mastermind. She does not have a wicked soul. If she doesn’t have all these, then what is happening? The truth is that she is just lacking impulse control and testing boundaries. By this, if you look at her as a manipulator, you will fight her. However, if you look at her as a pure soul making mistakes, you will be able to guide her. Secondly, for every problem anyone faces today, it has been solved in history. The only problem is how to locate them. A classical scholar named Al-Ghazali wrote about child psychology over 900 years ago in his famous book “Ihya Ulum al-Din.” In his section on disciplining children, he gave a practical rule I want you to adopt going forward. He advised that parents should never push a child into a corner where they are forced to lie. When you ask a question you already know the answer to, her survival instinct kicks in. She cries and she lies to defend herself because she is scared of you. Stop interrogating her. Just look at her and state the fact. Say, I know you took this, and we are going to return it right now. Again, another scholar and sociologist Ibn Khaldun addressed this exact behavior in his masterpiece titled: “Al-Muqaddimah.” He warned that when a child is raised with harsh punishment, they learn deceit, trickery, and lying to protect themselves. This is why she is covering her tracks and crying to manipulate you. The fear of a harsh reaction is making her a better liar. Lola, do not attach a label to her. Do not ever call her a thief. If you attack her identity instead of her action, she will internalize it and grow into that dark label. Tell her the action is wrong but protect her dignity. Make her return the item. Do not fall for the tears. Hold her hand, walk her back to wherever she took it from, and make her hand it back and apologize. The discomfort of returning a stolen item teaches a much better lesson than beating her will ever do. Finally, I don’t know if you are a Muslim, but never underestimate the power of your own words. In our faith, we believe the prayer of a parent for a child goes straight to God without any barrier. Pray over her. Pray for her heart to be content and for her character to be straight. Keep doing this consistently and the habit will break. Allah knows best.