..Of Lagos, was Abuja, now in the Verse

Let me say this. People, Nigerians especially, do not say the truth about migration because of our classist mindset. When someone japa, they lock up about the struggle and just go into quiet mode. They only come alive after they have made it to tell you how abroad is sweet and better than 9ja and talk about their success stories every 3 days. Nobody wants to tell you that they borrowed 15 million and they are still struggling to pay their bills abroad while being neck deep in debt. People have told you congratulations on the new dispensation. You have to live up to the hype. You're even doing jobs you're not proud of but bills have to be paid. That is not a problem. Early beginnings are part of the journey and that is okay. But classist mentality makes you think you deserve better and should be doing better in another man's land as you touch ground. You need to tell Twitter ASAP you work in PWC London or New York. There is a very high depression rate abroad. People want to come back but how do you explain that you are leaving new dispensation for old dispensation after all the congratulations. What will you even tell your debtors? Better life differ from person to person but some of you think everyone's better life must be abroad. So you hop on the bandwagon with little information. When you arrive and face the struggle, the first thing you'll hear is "dem no dey tell person." You have to come and experience it for yourself. Many people don't like the weather and struggle with it but when they post pictures in snow, you think they are flexing. Meanwhile, electricity bill wants to kill them because they can't turn off the heater. When they post pictures of in restaurant eating continental dishes, you think they are balling but half the time, they are not enjoying it but you have to impress Instagram and get your likes and compliments because everything exotic is balling to Nigerians. People that have sex like 20 times a week in Nigeria have not had sex in months and konji is affecting their mental health. Some of you can't even approach the opposite sex in 9ja where sex is easy. How do you want to cope abroad? Then there is the risk vs reward system. At the risk of abandoning everything at home for a better life abroad, what is the alternative forgone? The government own your kids. People are afraid of their kids because everyday teachers are asking if parents touched or hurt them. They can't wait to collect those kids from you. Discipline is abuse, so some send the child back home for discipline since they can't do it. People are working like elephants. You'll think you're going to join your friends abroad but when you start picking shifts, you'll understand why you in Southampton have not met your guy in Newcastle in 2 years. Roommates that live together are barely seeing because of shifts. Even husband and wife are struggling to find time to be together because one person has to be at home with the kids while the other is working. Unless you have interest in donating those kids to government. Your family friends and love ones, you wont see them in years as part of the sacrifice for japa. All you have is memories. Travelling with your partner is supposed to be the best because abroad is lonely and no neighbourly relationship. Everybody dey their lane. You have somebody to gist with, support the bills, have regular intimacy with. But some of you reach abroad and turn to witches or join community of witchcraft where you're taught how to use the system to destroy your home. This is already long so I'll stop here. Some people are happy abroad with the working system and privileges. Some are depressed. If you want to japa, that is fine. If you want to stay in 9ja, that is fine. Make sure you're doing it out of personal conviction not because people are doing it.