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Honesty isn’t being rude

But honestly, if he did not want to face the truth I would just ignore him and walk away.

You’ve not explained why you aren’t not comfortable. You just say you aren’t.

If he was observably a woman, I would not lie to him.

You are the only thing in the world that controls your brain. Nothing else in the world controls your brain. It’s entirely you.

I’d also be able to verify that they are not what they claim they aren’t.

You’d have to explain why you aren’t a woman though. The cisgender man usually can explain what a woman is, and why they are not that.

I’d want you to reflect and answer the questions.

How do you know you aren’t a woman? Feeling disconnected doesn’t mean you aren’t. I don’t care what others refer to me as, bc I can’t control them, and their views don’t define me.

Basic respect would be being honest with you. And honestly there is nothing that being any sex is that defines who you are. That’s done by your actions:

What’s uncomfortable about it? What does being seen as a man provide that being seen as a woman does not?

Those are statements you’ve made. So what part of those things define your gender?

Why does it make you uncomfortable though? What’s wrong with it?

I’m still at a lost at what treatment you are seeking from others that “sees” you as something.

No. I’ve seen many feminine men. I largely don’t care about sex enough to think about it. How is being a trans man not stressful? What do you do as a trans man that you can’t do as a woman?

You continue to communicate it’s the same. You argue that change in sex is good. You argue hormone levels of the opposite sex are good. These point to gender being defined by sex.

How is it affirming it, if it’s not defined by it?

What would be best is to understand why you are stressed and address that. What’s wrong with being seen as a female? Why is being a female bad?

That damage is entirely self inflicted, and doesn’t have to exist: that’s entirely under individual control, and the best solution is to mitigate your own feelings, not to attempt to control the uncontrollable.

Either way, you’d have to argue why it’s not a personal perception issue, and here you are indicating it is, bc the solution is how you feel and how you want to be treated.