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smiling again after infidelity in a marriage of 22 years. I ✍🏻 and read for you on Spotify and Anchor 🎧 Links to my books 📚 are pinned. I blog at

Joined November 2018
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Two years of suspecting, gaslighting , discovery and recovery in two books. Paperback links: Sailing through #Infidelity amazon.com/dp/1091568839 Sail beyond... (Book 2) amazon.com/dp/B084YBQKX5 Also available on #Kindle #KU #AffairRecovery #BetrayedWife #Longtermrelationship
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Transformation of a cheating husband by the willingness of the wife to stay. Listen to Dr @cmaddenmft open.spotify.com/episode/5YN…
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Enjoying the rainbow after the storm. New blog post: sailingthroughinfidelity.blo…
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Sometimes therapy is about your relationship with what you can’t change
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Six and a half years past Dday, a comment on my blog by @LikesEliza60549 prompted a new article: sailingthroughinfidelity.blo…
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Such a good episode by @andrewgmarshall looking into the soul as men, no words. Important to understand the differences between ways of connecting with the self. open.spotify.com/episode/663…
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Many of the problems we see as marriage counsellors would be eased by clients having stronger friendships. This is one of the really sad trends of our time.
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Replying to @madeinindiya
Just hurtful how much of their happiness women are always ready to sacrifice to save a relationship.
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Working on your boundaries will repay all the time, effort and courage you put in. Thank you for this beautiful and soothing representation of how healthy boundaries make us feel @lizandmollie
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After an affair, the lives of both the unfaithful and the betrayed are seldom ever the same. It can feel as though that version of themselves is gone forever and their left without any hope of returning to who they were before the affair. affairrecovery.com/survivors…
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Not to be missed
Silly Relationship Mistakes Smart People Make - my latest @substack article goes through some common traps to be avoided/lovingly addressed. buff.ly/3CDY1KN
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Looking for thoughtful relationship advice? Try #TheMeaningfulLife podcast: ❤️Terry Real on 5 traps to avoid ❤️Infidelity - @SailingInfidel1 @stilllearning2b @cmaddenmft ❤️Attachment - @tarablairball ❤️Lessons from failed relationships @MBTTTR buff.ly/3RHDdaE
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100 #TheMeaningfulLife episodes, 100 v different & totally wonderful guests 🥰 Thank you for all your support @TraceyCox @cmaddenmft @SailingInfidel1 @georginascull @Rowan_Rachel @LindaBerman4 @MovePastDivorce If you haven't, check it out here!: buff.ly/32HlIzq
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“I am no longer anxious about younger, clever, prettier women being around my husband. I am finally free. “ Read some #infidelity recovery ❤️‍🩹 reminders here buff.ly/3pOa7tW
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there's a new article on my blog, after four months of not having anything new to share. You can visit here buff.ly/2Fi9mEp #infidelity
Staying in the #marriage after #infidelity is not for everyone. Here's why: buff.ly/3hsvyKM
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Some key factors that can help recover from betrayal: Take on a new project you feel passionate about Organize a potential life without the current spouse Do more of what gives you joy Focus on your health and get physically stronger #Infidelity Read it: buff.ly/3cjNMl6
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