Shaun | The Unraveler

You fear life more than you fear death. That is, you fear the risk it takes to be alive, feel alive, and express your true self. Whatever that self may be. Fearing self-expression is fearing being alive. Growing up you learn to live your life fulfilling other people's demands. Pleasing them. To be accepted. To be good enough. To be loved. To be connected. In these acts of pleasing, we lose ourselves in fulfilling the demands of others. We of course, learn society's rules, habits, beliefs along the way. And learn to integrate properly in 'society'. But this is not who we are. This is not who you are. Something tells me that you also resonate with this. A little voice deep inside that tells you it wants something different than the life handed to you. To go a different path than the one you are now. But you battle with a larger voice that plans out your life route. That voice says you should do XYZ to become successful in life and the society you are living in. So we come to a crossroads in rejection. Rejecting ourselves in order to meet the demands and pressures of what we grow up in. Who we are becomes lost in misty smoke. Yet, I and you... We both feel this sensation of inauthenticity in wearing our social facade masks. A part of us feels unfulfilled at times because a spark and glimpse of hope suggests that there can be more to life. And there can be more. Seriously, you deserve so much more than where you are at right now. There's more to life than just the cycle of sleeping eating working and sleeping some more. But where to start you might ask? There's only one place you can start. From within. ~The Unraveler Need help? My hand is always outstretched ❤️

What's stopping you from saying yes to the life you want?

14th January, 2023, Journal Entry - "I’m sick of this shit. This almost at times, gut wrenching feeling of being dissatisfied with life. I once was passionate about people, life, direction, and purpose. For example, youth work. But here I am 6 years later wallowing in self-pity." A year ago today, that was me. And I know many other men feel stuck like this too. Wanting a life filled with more satisfaction, purpose, meaning, and fulfillment. I felt like my life was wasting away. That I was achieving nothing. And that I was less of a man because of it. Constantly getting stuck in negative cycles of feeling unfulfilled, depressed, and anxious. I had thought I knew who I was after doing all the work on myself, but it was really only the beginning of the next step. It was on this day that the fatherly support I lacked as a young person… came through my gut feeling. My mind, body, soul, and intuition were all telling me to listen, even it was painful to hear. So I did. Here's a summary of the messages: - You want to live life? Then say f*ck it and do something about it. What have you got to lose. Be confident and see what happens. - If life's for living, then you will need to learn to ride the good and bad waves. Accepting each wave as they come. Who cares what others do or say, just go for it and learn from it. - Accept the past for what it was, and learn from it. - There's no use worrying about a future that hasn't happened. - Be present. Confront the decisions of now, while moving towards action orientated goals. - Enjoy the journey towards the goal. - I was left with the message to Reflect, Confront, and Take Action. I honestly felt raw at this point. I had done a lot of work on my past to heal. Yet, here I was. I was… right where I needed to be. I had begun to move forward from the past and cleared away much of the barriers that held me back. A lot of healing work was done through writing, processing, feeling, and reflecting. Giving myself a lot of space to just Be and feel. Something I had not been able to allow myself to do, but was nevertheless transformational. By the 14th of January, I was ready for the next steps. Future steps. What exactly did I do? - I looked at the struggles and hurdles I had overcome to get where I was today. - I imagined the future that I didn't want. - I imagined the future that I DID want. - I examined the heroes of my past. People I looked up to and the values they held. - I worked on building my mission, vision, and values. Twice. - I became clearer on my values and direction. As well as who I wanted to surround myself with. - I met with and aligned with people on a similar path. - I looked at my passions and my dreams. - I examined my fears and worries - I kept my heart open to new opportunities and ideas. Reflecting, confronting, and taking action has been a key part of shaping this journey. - I've continued to revisit my mission, values, dreams, and visions over the past year as I grew. Over the past year, I've learn to embrace myself more. Finding the inner roar that had been wanting to come out. It became clear to me that I appreciated and valued life. That I want to become more authentic in myself and becoming into Being. To have a childlike curiosity in creativity and exploration. To move towards a life filled with more peace. And it has come with many learnings along the way. Sometimes hard emotions and decisions. I've come to love, honour, trust, and value myself more. I went from not knowing my direction, having no fulfillment -> to living a life that has purpose and direction. I want to thank some of the key people along this journey so far... my key supporters, inspirations, and those who have stayed with me on this journey with me: @Kimmy_Coleen @sooyounglee369 @ShienaGable @IvanNistarov @TheBrandonChew @InnerTuned @BuildWithAdam @itschrisharders @amine__hammou @TatsukiThomas @SomyaThakker @examinedalive @themikegsimon @PlacidoAmendol1 All I can say, is that I am grateful to have met each and everyone of you.

For many men, we get to a point in our lives where we feel stuck and lost when hit with setbacks. Including myself. Let me just tell you this, it's normal to feel stuck at times and it's okay to ask for a brother's help. (Read to the end for a FREE Coaching offer) I believe every man has the potential to achieve many great things with their lives. It's just waiting to be unravelled and unleashed. Including you. Everyday is another step, another opportunity to reach into that potential that lies underneath the surface. Into your potential. If you're reading this page right now, you've already taken that first step at some point of your life. It's a clear sign that you want more out of your life and are ready to confidently step into a life with more satisfaction, purpose, and fulfillment. Perhaps you were just like me not long ago. Sick and tired of being depressed, stressed, anxious, and stuck in life. Sick of being in these painful cycles. Feeling as though you are living a life with no purpose or meaning. Or perhaps you've come to a cross road with your health, relationship, or career and want to figure out how to unravel yourself to move forward. I've been in both situations so I know what it is like. Take a moment right now to close your eyes and imagine your life where each day you are waking up to a purposeful and meaningful life. What does it look like? Even as a life coach I've struggled at times with a sense of purpose and meaning in life. I've face many doubts and walked through many challenging situations to get where I am today. For us men, purpose, meaning, and fulfillment are our lifeblood. They get us up and going in the morning. And perhaps right now, you don't know what your purpose is. That's okay. I'm here to help you unravel yourself and guide you towards building a better relationship with yourself and become the man you wish to be. I bring over 13 years of experience and expertise in helping people through mentoring, coaching, leadership, and counselling. I will help you, inspire you, and guide you on your journey in self-transformation. DMs open ----------- FREE Therapeutic Coaching Offer for men. If you read this far, thank you. I'm reaching out today to offer 3 free 1 hour Coaching Calls. This is for 3 dedicated men who are ready to make change. Interested? DM me or email [email protected] Know someone who may need it? Share it with them. ~ The Unraveler

It was time for an update in a new season and generation of Twitter... oops i should really start calling it X now.

It's important to take time out of your day to pause and breathe. To bring your body back to the present and relaxed state, rather than a constant stressed state that our typical lives tend to push us to have. Take a moment to listen into what your body needs. Give your inner child some space to say hello and come out to play. Unsure where to start? start with breathing in slowly, deeply and follow your breath down to your stomach. Let your belly fill up to your chest, hold it, and slowly let go of the breath. Cycle through this breath. Bring your attention and focus to this cycle of breath and notice the sensations you feel. As you do so, I recommend sitting in silence or the silence of natural surroundings. Too often we can be quick to put on music but this can often distract us from listening into our body. So, take time today to breathe and relax as you come into your weekend ❤️ #selfdevelopment #breath #meditation #nature #silence #innerwork #healingjourney