Psychotherapist in LA.
Los Angeles, CA
Joined December 2018
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Feeling misunderstood by others can be especially triggering when we come from a family that did not make an effort to get to know us deeply.
In a dysfunctional family, the first person to recognize the toxicity & abuse is often the one who is ostracized the most. Stepping away can be lonely & liberating at the same time.
When an abusive family member can no longer control you & your emotions, they will retaliate by excluding you, speaking negatively of you & attempting to manipulate how others see you.
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We’re often taught that restoring a relationship is what heals us. There are dynamics where never having to see the person again is the healthiest end result. If you relate to those words this is your reminder you don’t owe an explanation for the ways you’ve been hurt.
If you grew up in a chaotic household where you learned to associate your productivity level with self-worth, it makes sense if you are still struggling to integrate rest & relaxation into your life without feeling guilt or shame.
Being emotionally neglected as a child conditions us to feel chronically lonely as an adult. Even when we are surrounded by safe people & in loving relationships, the younger part of us that yearned to be seen, heard & understood often begs us to feel & validate its presence.
It is time to stop "treating others how you wish to be treated" when your version of that looks like giving beyond your means, feeling chronically depleted & resentful because others don't do the same for you.
Learn to give within your capacity. Let others do the same.
Codependency is like a sticky invisible web. We cannot always see it but once we’re “in it”, it’s touching everything: our friendships, our careers, our relationships to others & with ourselves.
Codependency looks like silently disappearing from your friendships & your passions as soon as you start a relationship, only to develop resentment toward your partner for nurturing their life outside the relationship.
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Quite often the scapegoat is the empath or highly sensitive person who has the ability and strength to vulnerably express an authentic hunger for change. This is often the most unwelcomed temperament in a toxic system, familial or other.
What did therapy teach you? For me it was that saying “no” is also a form of self-care. #ThingsTherapyTaughtMe
How did you know your relationship was toxic? I shared my thoughts with @hellogiggles and a few tips for navigating an unhealthy relationship hellogiggles.com/love-sex/re…
What makes you feel truly comfortable in a relationship? Sharing my thoughts on boundaries in relationships with @bustle
bustle.com/p/17-things-to-do…
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Codependency can manifest itself in so many different ways, and is often misunderstood as only existing in relationships involving addiction. What are some ways you have seen codependency display itself?
🖼: @sitwithsharon 👏
#codependentnomore #socialworkersheal
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“I felt freer with my patients and they seemed to be freer with me, going places we hadn’t ventured to before."
In today's @washingtonpost, I wrote about the intimacy of online #therapy during #coronavirus washingtonpost.com/opinions/…
We cannot maintain the upper hand or control the outcome of a relationship [or otherwise attempt to ease or get ahead of internal anxiety through external means] and build intimacy with others at the same time. Healthy #intimacy starts within.
Esther Perel: Millennials value their work more than older generations - Insider insider.com/esther-perel-mil…
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"We learn about relationships as children from the quality of relating we experience with our parents. As adults, we recreate what we've learned."
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