Trey Tucker

Therapist @TTuck10 shares, “One of the things I tell my clients is: I want you to suffer. And they’ll look at me like, ‘What?’ I’m like, yeah—I want you to suffer. I want you to struggle. I am not here to give you relief. I’m here to help you get stronger so that, when you suffer, you can look back and realize, ‘Hey, look what I did.’ And for the believers, ‘Look what God helped me get through.’ I look at King David, and when you read the Psalms, he’s saying things like, ‘God, thank you for the afflictions of my youth.’ And he’s looking back at God: ‘You trained my hands and my fingers for war.’ When he was a boy in the fields protecting the flock, he was fighting off animals and going through all kinds of things. He had no idea what was going to come later in life. And he realized all that training in the field helped him win battles. And then, when he won those battles, he came back bloodied, beaten up, sweating. It was awful—and he won—but he always said, ‘God gave me the victory.’ And it was also his physical exertion and the training that led up to those moments. So I want people to go through enough to realize, ‘Yeah, I’ve got the strength. I’ve got what it takes. And therefore, I’m going to use it for something bigger than me.’”

Therapist @TTuck10 came on Relatable to talk about anxiety. I asked him, "If you could define anxiety, how would you define it?" Tucker: "Fear of the future. Fear of the unknown. The verse, 'Be still and know that I am God' used to make me so angry. I'm like, God, what do you mean be still? Like, I got a real problem here. I'm in a storm. Why do you want me to just be still? And what I realized is that the word, and I believe it's "Rapha" in the Hebrew, it doesn’t mean just ‘don’t move.’ It means ‘release your grip.’ The idea that I thought that I had control, that was a lie anyway. If I can start to realize like, yes, the circumstances might happen that are negative or I might be in the middle of a battle right now, but if I can loosen my grip and stop white knuckling it, then I can realize that like oh—God is God, not me, and He’s going to take care of me no matter what happens. That really is the solution to anxiety. It’s not changing your circumstances or slapping meds on it.”