Kevin Stechschulte

The #1 thing players bring up that they want to improve is moving on from bad shots By far and away this is what I talk about most in 1-on-1 mental coaching sessions So as I like to do, I respond with a question: Why is it hard for you to move on from bad shots? This can go several different directions, but the most common answer has something to do with frustration But that's not deep enough. We've gotta know what the source of the issue is So I ask something like "Why are bad shots frustrating?" And eventually we get to the bottom of it Which is usually something to do with how they see themselves as a golfer, and a person If you believe that in order to be the golfer you see yourself as you need to hit every shot well, then yeah you're going to be frustrated and that bad shot is going to stick with you And then you're going to double down on the next one and feel like you absolutely for sure have to hit this next one good or your view of yourself as the type of player who plays good will crumble Instead, seeing yourself as a work in progress is one of the best mentality shifts to have in order to uproot the unhelpfully constricting identity we create Needing things to go a certain way to be happy is a sure fire way to play really protective and scared Being ok that things won't go perfectly, and no golfer no matter how good they are will play perfect golf Also- quit watching golf highlight reels, those aren't helping the identity expectations 😆