Sr. Chances

This actually doesn't happen all that often, mainly because you included "I want you to feel bad" and "you don't get to have closure". You are specifically citing Herb, who had a unique case with Bojack. Everyone else in the show either just flat out forgives Bojack, or they tell Bojack that they can't forgive him until he takes responsibility for his actions and becomes a better person. Shoot, some of his best friends straight up tell Bojack that him feeling bad about what he did doesn't matter because his behavior doesn't change. What people who haven't actually watched the show don't seem to understand is that throughout it, Bojack is forgiven way more times than he's chastised, but he constantly pushes his luck. The clips that go viral are the ones where the characters finally stop putting up with him, and often times, that's not even permanent as said characters wind up forgiving him again later down the line. This recent discussion about the show is overshadowing the big point it makes, which is that people need to stop making excuses for themselves and take control over their lives, but since it involves "forgiveness", or lack thereof, people are zeroing in on that detail and misrepresenting the show's intentions. I don't really care too much if people dislike the show or its messages. Shoot, I don't like some of the things it preaches, but it's really annoying how people who have no idea what the show is about are hating on it for something it didn't do.