synfulladies

Sometimes, dating someone is a bad idea. Maybe your chemistry is electric but you're really incompatible in other ways. Maybe they're a boss, a family member of an existing partner, or someone who would highly complicate your existing relations with other people.

#PolyamoryTipoftheDay: When asking your partner about their other dates or relationships, examine whether your questions come from a place of genuine curiosity or insecurity.

#PolyamoryTipoftheDay: Treat your metamours how you would want to be treated by them. (Or rather, how THEY want to be treated!)

#PolyamoryTipoftheDay: Your partners are allowed to grow and change. Sometimes, you will evolve in different directions.

#PolyamoryTipoftheDay: Don't project your assumptions onto other people's actions. Assume good faith, and ask explicit questions.

Ethical non-monogamy and polyamory are not the same thing. Read more here about the difference: polyphilia.blog/home/polyamo…

Hot take: a don’t-ask-don’t-tell polyamorous relationship CAN be healthy, as long as it is based on the desire for privacy and to focus only on your relationship when you’re together, rather than being rooted in avoidance, fear, or insecurity over the existence of other partners.